Examples of Stuck Mindsets
Sometimes you can speed up the process of “getting unstuck” by looking into this list and finding the subconscious mindset that is holding you back.
Here are some examples of the most common subconscious beliefs getting in the way.
Fears
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
- Fear of being visible
- Fear of being invisible
- Fear of change
- Fear of identity change
- Fear of poverty
- Fear of wealth
- Fear of being an outsider
Stories
- “Nobody loves me” or “Nobody will love me if I do (or don’t do) X, Y and Z”
- “Everyone hates me” or “Nobody likes me”
- “The world is mean” or “The world is scary”
- “I am not skilled enough, experienced enough, established enough” or “I am a sham”
- “I am just not ready”
- “People will forget me” or “I’m not memorable enough, interesting enough, attractive enough”
- “I am unworthy” or “I am not worthy of good things”
- “I talk too much” or “I don’t talk enough”
- “I am too shy” or “I’m not popular enough, gregarious enough, sociable enough”
- “I’ll never be as good as …”
- “Nothing good ever happens” or “Why bother” or “What’s the point”
- “I’m selfish”
- “I’m a coward”
- “I’m a wimp” or “I’m too weak” or “I’m not strong enough”
- “I’m too lazy” or “I’m too unproductive” or “I’m too slow” or “I will start something and then quit”
- “I don’t have what it takes”
- “I’m a failure” or “I always fail at everything”
- “Nobody respects me” or “I am unworthy of respect” or “I am ridiculous”
If you have found one stuck mindset that “resonates”
That’s good! Annoying, sure, but useful. Now you can write it down somewhere, and observe how it affects other areas of life. Now you can ask questions, like
- “Is this true? Can I be 100% sure that it is true?”
- “In what ways is this NOT true?”
- “Is this from the past? Where did I get this from? Who said this to me?”
- “What would I do if a friend believed this? What would I say to them?”
- “Is there something I can do to give myself reassurance?”
The answers don’t matter as much as ASKING the questions, and keeping on ASKING more questions.
If you have NOT found one stuck mindset that “resonates”
Then don’t worry about it. Either it’s too hidden (ie: too subconscious) and you’re not ready to see it yet, or it’s just not on this list.
Remember: ALL INQUIRY IS USEFUL.
Yes, even when you don’t get useful “answers”. Even when it is depressing to know. ALL INQUIRY IS USEFUL.